In order to be happy, many people think that they need to work hard and study. But this is absolutely not true; for this it is important to find inner harmony with yourself and the world around you. How your life will turn out depends only on you, and not on other people and circumstances. There are several tips on how to learn to live happily.
Be grateful
Often those people who are unhappy are those who do not know how to appreciate what they already have. Learn to be grateful to everyone and everything that surrounds you. After all, happiness, first of all, does not lie in beautiful house and wealth, but in the people who give it to you. Always thank fate for your parents, soul mates, children, friends and family.
Be sure to thank for everything that you have achieved in life, for success in school, work, sports and other things that are very important to you, even for very small victories. The more you thank your life, the more pleasant surprises it will give you.
Gain confidence in yourself
If a person has low self-esteem and does not feel capable, he feels wounded, weak and helpless. Such individuals cannot fully enjoy happiness. Because of their cowardice and inaction they miss important points in life, which may no longer exist in the future. You need to radically change yourself and your thinking. Stop comparing yourself to others, they are no better than you.
Each person has his own talents, you just need to find and reveal them. Don’t be afraid to take action, even if nothing works out, it’s not the end of the world, because every person makes mistakes, the main thing is not to dwell on them. Don’t stand still, move forward persistently, trust your intuition and then you will achieve what you dream of.
Learn to quickly get rid of nervous tension
At a certain point in life, every person faces various problems along the way, which are sometimes difficult to cope with. Troubles can be of various types, both at work and in personal life. A person gets lost and begins to get nervous, which usually leads to stress and depression. As a result of all this, problems become even greater, your moral and physical health is undermined, and various diseases appear.
To prevent this from happening, you should learn to get rid of nervous tension as quickly as possible. There are many options for this: walks in nature, going to the pool, going to the gym, going to the cinema, practicing hobbies or doing physical exercises at home. You just need to choose which method is right for you. At such moments, it is important to put aside all troubles and enjoy everything that surrounds you, and then you will be happy.
Appreciate and take care of your loyal friends
Not many people have true, devoted friends in life; of course, everyone has comrades, acquaintances and close people. You are all connected by something, with some - work, with others - common interests, with others - wives and children. But it is very important to have those people who will always support you in difficult times, will rejoice at your achievements and will not betray you in any situation. You need to take care of such people and thank fate for introducing you to them. But you also shouldn’t break ties with all your other comrades; appreciate them too, because along some path their help was and will be useful to you.
Develop yourself
Another step towards a happy life is human development. Many live ordinary days in which absolutely nothing happens; they are in their own closed world. All this affects a person and sometimes leads to degradation. Time goes by, our world is developing and we are developing with it.
Don't sit in one place, start learning something new, unknown to you. Visit those places in your city where you have not been before, watch scientific and educational films, do something that is completely new to you, travel and get acquainted with interesting people, because happiness is around us and in ourselves. Learning to live happily is extremely necessary, because without this, all days are very similar to gray everyday life.
Lots of good stuff, but nothing new (except this: “Throw away all the things you haven’t worn or used in a last year". I categorically disagree with this - many things retain memory, and to refuse this is short-sighted and worthless).
Not long ago I found some interesting tips on how to live correctly! Maybe someone will be interested and someone will be able to argue with them.
1. Find out what you really like. This is both the most important and the most difficult. There will be a separate big conversation about this, but the golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier. With the development of the Internet, everything has become even simpler - the results of your efforts are very easy to convey to the public, and they will definitely appreciate them. Moreover, having a job that really lights you up is a key factor in attracting the opposite sex. But you need to be prepared for the fact that finding your way is a marathon that can last many (tens?) years. (more details)
2. Stop the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. There is no need to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.
3. Learn foreign languages. This will incredibly expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented prospects for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. There are a billion English speakers. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language border. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.
4. Read books. Approximate circle - your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, qualitative fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life. (more about books)
5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, play sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your zone of contact with the world. When you’ve already traveled and walked around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is don’t sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.
6. Start keeping a blog or a regular diary. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you can think and reason. And if you just write regularly about what you love, readers will definitely come.
7. Set goals. Record them on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable (we’ll talk about this separately sometime). If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all.
8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard - not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing.
9. Ride the clock. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off “for later.” Either do everything or delegate it to someone else. Try to never let the ball stay on your side. Write down on a piece of paper all the “long-term” things that have not yet been done and are interfering with your life. Rethink whether you need them (keeping in mind point 1). Do what's left for a few days and you'll feel incredibly light.
10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid surfing on the Internet. Minimize communication on social networks (even to the point of optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the television antenna in the apartment. To avoid the urge to constantly check your email, install an agent that will notify you of incoming messages (including on your mobile phone).
11. Stop reading the news. All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.
12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. The same goes for weekend shopping. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, sad, pessimistic and angry. To grow taller, you must strive upward, and having people around you to whom you want to grow will in itself be a great incentive.
14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information.
15. Start traveling. It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand– the quality of vacation has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.
16. Buy a camera (the simplest one possible) and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.
17. Play sports. You don’t have to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.
18. Do unusual things. Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about. Get out of your “comfort zone”, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.
19. Invest. Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it (more details)
20. Get rid of junk. Throw away all the things you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - give it away. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.
21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn.
22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.
23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.
24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance of failure.
25. The last one is the first one. Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. But even if you systematically do at least some of this, then in a year, when you look at yourself in the mirror, you won’t recognize yourself. And the world will simply have no choice but to follow your example and change in response.
Multibookaf
I'm flying, I'm in heaven ©
For a real Indian there is always nothing good everywhere
I turned off the computer and there is no you©Thermo
Not long ago I found some interesting tips on how to live correctly! Maybe someone will be interested and someone will be able to argue with them.
1. Find out what you really like. This is both the most important and the most difficult. There will be a separate big conversation about this, but the golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier. With the development of the Internet, everything has become even simpler - the results of your efforts are very easy to convey to the public, and they will definitely appreciate them. Moreover, having a job that really lights you up is a key factor in attracting the opposite sex. But you need to be prepared for the fact that finding your way is a marathon that can last many (tens?) years. (more details)
2. Stop the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. There is no need to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.
3. Learn foreign languages. This will incredibly expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented prospects for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. There are a billion English speakers. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language border. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.
4. Read books. An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life. (more about books)
5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, play sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your zone of contact with the world. When you’ve already traveled and walked around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is don’t sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.
6. Start keeping a blog or a regular diary. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you can think and reason. And if you just write regularly about what you love, readers will definitely come.
7. Set goals. Record them on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable (we’ll talk about this separately sometime). If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all.
8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard - not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing.
9. Ride the clock. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off “for later.” Either do everything or delegate it to someone else. Try to never let the ball stay on your side. Write down on a piece of paper all the “long-term” things that have not yet been done and are interfering with your life. Rethink whether you need them (keeping in mind point 1). Do what's left for a few days and you'll feel incredibly light.
10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid Internet surfing. Minimize communication on social networks (even to the point of optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the television antenna in the apartment. To avoid the urge to constantly check your email, install an agent that will notify you of incoming messages (including on your mobile phone).
11. Stop reading the news. All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.
12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. The same goes for weekend shopping. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, sad, pessimistic and angry. To grow taller, you must strive upward, and having people around you to whom you want to grow will in itself be a great incentive.
14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information.
15. Start traveling. It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of the holiday has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.
16. Buy a camera (the simplest one possible) and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.
17. Play sports. You don’t have to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.
18. Do unusual things. Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about. Get out of your “comfort zone”, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.
19. Invest. Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it (more details)
20. Get rid of junk. Throw away all the things you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - give it away. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.
21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn.
22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.
23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.
24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance of failure.
25. The last one is the first one. Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. But even if you systematically do at least some of this, then in a year, when you look at yourself in the mirror, you won’t recognize yourself. And the world will simply have no choice but to follow your example and change in response.
And what does this mean for the fate of the race?
I hear the rustle
of morning stars.
Not long ago I found some interesting tips on how to live correctly! Maybe someone will be interested and someone will be able to argue with them.
1. Find out what you really like. This is both the most important and the most difficult. There will be a separate big conversation about this, but the golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier. With the development of the Internet, everything has become even simpler - the results of your efforts are very easy to convey to the public, and they will definitely appreciate them. Moreover, having a job that really lights you up is a key factor in attracting the opposite sex. But you need to be prepared for the fact that finding your way is a marathon that can last many (tens?) years. (more details)
2. Stop the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. There is no need to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.
3. Learn foreign languages. This will incredibly expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented prospects for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. There are a billion English speakers. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language border. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.
4. Read books. An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life. (more about books)
5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, play sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your zone of contact with the world. When you’ve already traveled and walked around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is don’t sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.
6. Start keeping a blog or a regular diary. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you can think and reason. And if you just write regularly about what you love, readers will definitely come.
7. Set goals. Record them on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable (we’ll talk about this separately sometime). If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all.
8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard - not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing.
9. Ride the clock. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off “for later.” Either do everything or delegate it to someone else. Try to never let the ball stay on your side. Write down on a piece of paper all the “long-term” things that have not yet been done and are interfering with your life. Rethink whether you need them (keeping in mind point 1). Do what's left for a few days and you'll feel incredibly light.
10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid Internet surfing. Minimize communication on social networks (even to the point of optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the television antenna in the apartment. To avoid the urge to constantly check your email, install an agent that will notify you of incoming messages (including on your mobile phone).
11. Stop reading the news. All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.
12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. The same goes for weekend shopping. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, sad, pessimistic and angry. To grow taller, you must strive upward, and having people around you to whom you want to grow will in itself be a great incentive.
14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information.
15. Start traveling. It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of the holiday has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.
16. Buy a camera (the simplest one possible) and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.
17. Play sports. You don’t have to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.
18. Do unusual things. Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about. Get out of your “comfort zone”, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.
19. Invest. Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it (more details)
20. Get rid of junk. Throw away all the things you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - give it away. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.
21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn.
22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.
23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.
24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance of failure.
25. The last one is the first one. Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. But even if you systematically do at least some of this, then in a year, when you look at yourself in the mirror, you won’t recognize yourself. And the world will simply have no choice but to follow your example and change in response.
I'll study it carefully in my spare time.
not a word about elections???
My option is not there.
Correctly spelled bullshit.
90% agree, and 10% are simply defiantly zombied
million, why bother quoting the entire message????? I would kill
And at midnight the sky smells like stars
A lot of useful things, but nothing new (except for this: “Throw away all the things you haven’t worn or used in the last year.” I strongly disagree with this - many things retain memory, and giving up on this is short-sighted and worthless) .
I finished the renovation myself a week ago, and my wife and I decided to take apart the things we had collected in large bags and throw away the old and unnecessary ones. So, when my wife started throwing away my things, it was very unpleasant and unfortunate, because... each one held a lot of memories...
Destroy the television antenna in the apartment "...) in writing deliciously
On the sofa I'm like an ancient Greek on the grass,
I dilute port wine with water, like Socrates.
I read Henry Miller, Joyce, Kafka
And I cherish my stinking snobbery.
2. Stop the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. There is no need to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.
3. Learn foreign languages. This will incredibly expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented prospects for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. There are a billion English speakers. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language border. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.
4. Read books. An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life. (more about books)
5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, play sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your zone of contact with the world. When you’ve already traveled and walked around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is don’t sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.
6. Start keeping a blog or a regular diary. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you can think and reason. And if you just write regularly about what you love, readers will definitely come.
7. Set goals. Record them on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable (we’ll talk about this separately sometime). If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all.
8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard - not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing.
9. Ride the clock. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off “for later.” Either do everything or delegate it to someone else. Try to never let the ball stay on your side. Write down on a piece of paper all the “long-term” things that have not yet been done and are interfering with your life. Rethink whether you need them (keeping in mind point 1). Do what's left for a few days and you'll feel incredibly light.
10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid Internet surfing. Minimize communication on social networks (even to the point of optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the television antenna in the apartment. To avoid the urge to constantly check your email, install an agent that will notify you of incoming messages (including on your mobile phone).
11. Stop reading the news. All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.
12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. The same goes for weekend shopping. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.
13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, sad, pessimistic and angry. To grow taller, you must strive upward, and having people around you to whom you want to grow will in itself be a great incentive.
14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information.
15. Start traveling. It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of the holiday has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.
16. Buy a camera (the simplest one possible) and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.
17. Play sports. You don’t have to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.
18. Do unusual things. Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about. Get out of your “comfort zone”, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.
19. Invest. Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it (more details)
20. Get rid of junk. Throw away all the things you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - give it away. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.
21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn.
22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.
23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.
Everyone has their own secret of happiness, but in the general understanding it comes down to one thing: living in harmony with yourself and the world around you, being satisfied and seeing meaning in your life. But all people have different desires (not counting the lower needs), as well as different goals, values, and meanings. Therefore, it is impossible to derive a general formula for happiness, but knowing the basic rules, you can create your own individual and unique happiness. However, this is not the only issue that remains to be resolved. What is happiness: luck or the result of one’s own efforts?
“In a certain sense, what we call happiness occurs as a result of the previously unforeseen satisfaction of needs that have been suppressed for a long time,” Sigmund Freud.
Philosophy and ethics study happiness. In psychology, this issue was addressed only in 1974. Psychology studies rather the influence on achieving happiness and the influence of happiness on the health of the individual. That is, as always, the question is at the intersection of sciences and is woven into different spheres of man, which immediately shows the ambiguity of this phenomenon. Psychology views happiness as a state, ethics as a moral category (value), philosophy as a way of thinking.
In the modern understanding, the state of happiness within psychology is on the same level as and. A person is happy when he understands and realizes his destiny.
Happiness is not the same as joy, but joy is an essential element of a happy life. Although happiness is an ambiguous, changing phenomenon, common features for all people can be identified:
- satisfaction of basic needs for safety, food, rest and so on (without this no one will be happy, but for some people this is enough, others achieve higher needs (self-realization), then if they are dissatisfied they will not be happy);
- a versatile, complete and harmonious life (physical, moral, intellectual, aesthetic spheres do not conflict).
I’ll make a reservation that in this article I don’t want to consider animal happiness (drinking, eating, sleeping), or hedonistic happiness. After all, we are people, higher beings, and that’s why I want to talk about high standards of happiness. Then it assumes the following elements:
- spiritual and intellectual (knowledge, beliefs, culture, values, attitudes, morality);
- material (health and financial independence, well-being).
But this is a theory that, without practice, remains only opportunities to be happy. This is all embodied in 3 types: work (learning), love (interpersonal relationships,) and creativity (exit from non-standard and).
Happiness as a new personality formation goes through several stages:
- personal happiness, independent of the happiness of other people (sometimes the misfortune of others is important in order to feel even better);
- happiness associated with the group with which a person identifies (other people are not important);
- happiness only if all people are happy (but is this possible?);
- happiness as the unity of man with nature (God, the cosmos).
Luck or the result of hard work?
There are many opinions about what happiness is, and just as many opinions about what gives it: fate or the person himself. In my opinion, the truth lies between these positions, however, provided that the gifts of fate are considered to be the favorable one in which a person was born and certain innate characteristics that increase endurance and the likelihood of success in life. However, this is also a controversial issue, because from birth no stigma is placed on us and it depends only on ourselves, our environment and the prevailing circumstances whether we use our innate inclinations or not.
In the end I would say this:
- In childhood, a person’s happiness depends on other people, which is why it can be called luck/bad luck.
- In adulthood, a person builds his own life and is responsible for its success/failure. But for some people this is more difficult because they have to get rid of the burden of the past.
Troubles happen to everyone in life, and there are indeed factors that we cannot influence. But people react differently to difficult situations - this is the secret of happiness and the role of one’s own work.
No matter how childhood develops, it is during this period that a person is happiest. But childhood happiness is not suitable for an adult. It is based on ignorance, lack of reflection, irresponsibility and spontaneity. If an adult lives by the same basics, he will be knocked out of real world, and the happiness of not noticing the hardships of life is very conditional and doubtful.
Happiness and Needs
If a person stops wanting something, striving for something, it means he has stalled in personal development. It is known that there is no limit to perfection. Accordingly, complete satisfaction cannot be achieved. But the essence of happiness is that a person knows how to satisfy his new needs and achieve a new goal. He is happy because he is active and independent. It moves, develops and improves.
But here too there is a contradiction: a state that causes frustration and strong tension cannot be considered normal dissatisfaction. That is, if dissatisfaction is associated with unfulfilled expectations and losses, then it is perceived as a state of unhappiness. But if dissatisfaction is focused on the future, serves as an incentive to achieve something that a person has not yet had, then this is an element of happiness. As a rule, such dissatisfaction relates to creative activity.
The meaning of life and happiness
An interesting connection: having the meaning of life gives us a state of happiness and harmony, but at the same time, the very acquisition of happiness can be the meaning of life. What then is happiness-meaning? Perhaps the most generalized and universal answer will be: preserving one’s individuality (personal) in the context of social relations (general).
Remember how often you have heard or admitted that the root of unhappiness is misunderstanding on the part of others, the inability to be yourself. The contradiction between personal and social is one of the most dangerous and destructive. An unfree person cannot be happy. Although freedom does not guarantee happiness. You need to have freedom and be able to use it, to use this right rationally.
Where to look for happiness
There are two main questions in this category: make only yourself happy or try to make other people happy? Second - not best option. Remember the relativity of happiness. Where is the guarantee that your opponent sees the world exactly the same? Wouldn't you be an intrusive advisor then?
No one can make other people happy, at least not purposefully. By accident, for example, by inventing something - quite. But do you think that during the creation process the author is driven by the idea of making others happy? Hardly. In the end, it remains that you can only make yourself happy.
Happiness ultimately comes from ourselves, our needs, values and interests:
- a person for whom health is the main value will be happy despite material deprivation;
- a power-hungry person will never be happy, since there will always be little power and wealth;
- will give much more happy feelings than frequent changes of scenery, people, and sights.
Our happiness depends on what brings us pleasure. This in turn is directly related to the needs of the individual. As a result, it turns out that happiness is connected only with our personality, with what we are. External factors only influence 8-15% of happiness. From this it turns out that you need to first of all work on yourself in order to be happy:
- study your individual personal characteristics;
- make a list of advantages and disadvantages;
- deficiencies are divided into those that can be corrected and that need to be accepted;
- make a plan to maintain and develop strengths;
- make a plan to get rid of shortcomings;
- be friendly and open to new things;
- understand your inner world, interests and needs;
- develop a stable worldview and your own social position.
Happiness has two eternal enemies - pain and boredom. Try to eliminate from your life what causes these conditions. In turn, health and beauty (not so much physical as spiritual) are the basis of any happiness.
Try to change your thinking to (this is where happiness begins):
- Why do we sometimes suffer? Because we give in to value judgments. If you do not evaluate your situation as good or bad, then you do not feel happy or unhappy. Try to evaluate your condition and satisfaction/dissatisfaction. Note what exactly oppresses you and how it can be changed. It is clear that we cannot do without an assessment, but try to make it more specific.
- Try to talk about more than just what you don't have. This usually creates a feeling of unhappiness, especially if left unattended and unaddressed. Think about what you have, but what would happen if you didn't have it.
- Realize that nothing and no one is perfect.
- Don't get attached to things and people - everything comes. Remember that the only constant in your life is you, but even then you undergo regular changes.
- Constantly expand your circle of acquaintances and interests.
- Get rid of the burden of the past with pleasure and ease.
You should not choose something from the outside world as a source of happiness. The outside world is unstable. The only thing that is always with us is our inner world. This is where the work needs to be directed. There is no need to look for happiness in another person, work, or helping others. These elements, undoubtedly, should be included in the concept of happiness, but the base is our inner world.
At the same time, it is worth understanding that we experience not so much happiness from something achieved, but from the contrast between the new and the old (happiness and unhappiness). Therefore, it turns out that happiness is an unstable category, it cannot be permanent, but we can control it.
It is noted that congenital characteristics also contribute to the possibility of achieving happiness. It has been proven that extroverts and people with low neuroticism are happier than their opposites.
“After a period of happiness, joyful excitement and a sense of fullness of life, there will inevitably come a taking for granted what has been achieved and there will be restlessness, dissatisfaction and doing more.” - Abraham Maslow.
How to enjoy life
The best way to learn to enjoy life is to develop it in yourself. Our whole life is creativity. Creativity gives us new knowledge, benefits, achievements, aesthetic and moral pleasure.
Creativity consists of inspiration and work, and only 1% is allocated to the first element. You can create in 3 directions:
- create spiritual and material assets;
- create or discover something new;
- express yourself and develop yourself.
Creating yourself, transforming the world around you is also creativity. Creativity is something between work and rest. On the one hand, this is relaxation from the process itself, but on the other hand, it is targeted effort. Creativity makes us burn, rejoice, and open up. If you perceive your whole life as a continuous field for creativity, then the feeling of flight and joy will permeate it “from” to “to”.
The modern world allows everyone to express themselves. How? Of course, via the Internet. You can create a page in social network, group, website and publish author’s drawings, comics, articles, videos, poems there. Moreover, I am sure that every creator will find his audience.
But this is not even the only option. Associations with artists, singers, and poets are becoming a thing of the past. Today, the term "creativity" has a much broader meaning. But it is important to remember the 2 main risks of a creative person:
- Dependencies. It is no secret that many geniuses were accompanied by drug, alcohol or cigarette addiction. These substances provide that state of happiness that is impossible at the time of creative crisis. But our body cannot calmly accept these substitutes. To many famous people Because of this, I had to die early or end my career.
- Workaholism. Another extreme of receiving endorphins (hormones of happiness). With active mental activity, the body produces natural hormones, they are not harmful, unlike synthetic ones (alcohol, drugs, cigarettes), they are not dangerous due to “swings” and prolonged depression, but mental work for wear and tear devastates mitochondria - glucose storage facilities, cell batteries. When they are depleted and the level of endorphins is high, the blood begins to circulate faster, intracranial pressure increases, which can cause cardiac arrest. Unfortunately, death at the table during active mental activity is not a fiction. For example, such a fate befell I. M. Tronsky, a Russian philologist and an inveterate workaholic.
From everything mentioned above, the conclusion suggests itself: you cannot build happiness on one thing, you need to create your own multi-component formula. This is important in order to regularly maintain a state of joy, satisfaction, expectation, inspiration, but not to overstrain any system of the body. The golden mean and moderation are good in everything. You should not put happiness on one card; it is important to always have many options for insurance and safety.
Afterword
Thus, happiness is a certain emotional response to success in any business, first of all, socially useful and creative, which contributes to the course of history and leisure, the development of society. That is, to be happy, you need to do what you like, but also make other people happy.
The second option to find happiness is to find your calling and become an excellent specialist in some field. Satisfaction from work and its results is a powerful semantic factor and a lever for feeling happiness.
In a broad sense, happiness can be characterized as general satisfaction with life, the predominance of positive events over negative ones. The events themselves are different for each person.
In our world, everything is neutral until we pass it through the prism of our own inner world. Only after this does something plunge us into a state of happiness, and something into unhappiness. Happiness is satisfaction with life (as an element of thinking and consciousness, that is, the cognitive part), the absence (minimum) of negative affects and the predominance of positive affects (emotionally personally significant events).
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How to live happily and enjoy life? Agree, only an absolutely happy person can give the correct answer to this question. But most people are now overwhelmed, overwhelmed with an unimaginable number of tasks and problems! I started thinking where can you find a truly happy person?! To ask him: how to live happily and enjoy life?
I noticed that you just have to ask something mentally, and the answer will not be long in coming.
I found an absolutely happy, in my opinion, person. His name is Jon Jandai. I came across a video of his speech at the TEDx conference. For some reason it doesn't surprise me that he comes from Thailand! Many people comment that Thais seem much happier than us.
His secret of happiness captured my imagination. Below is a short summary of the speech. Right now and right on the website at the end of the article you can watch Jon Jandai’s full TED speech in Russian. And get ready to change your outlook on life.
The secret of Thai happiness. TEDx talk
Here's my story. I was born in a remote, poor village where people worked only 2 months a year - 1 month when they planted rice and 1 month when they harvested. For a whole year we lived cheerfully and joyfully, we didn’t have to work hard. This is why we have so many festivals and holidays in Thailand.
How to earn more money?
But when televisions appeared in our village, we saw that people in cities live differently. They told us - you are poor. And to become rich, you need to go to Bangkok. And so I went. I started working 8 hours a day. But with the money I earned I could only buy a bowl of noodles a day and lived in a small room with workers like me. I wondered why I work hard but am still poor?
And I decided to go to university. But studying did not bring me joy. After all, I realized that at university they teach destructive things. If you study to be an architect, you will end up rolling the Earth into concrete. If you study to be an agronomist, you will be taught how to poison the Earth.
Then I decided to return home. And what did I find? It turns out you don't have to work hard to have enough food. I work only 2 months a year and grow 4 tons of rice. At the same time, my family needs less than half a ton per year. We sell the surplus. I tend a garden of 30 types of vegetables in just 15 minutes a day. But we don’t need as many vegetables as the garden provides. And we also sell the surplus. It turns out I was deceived. It's not true that you have to work hard.
How to build your own house?
Then I thought that I need my own home. But I remembered the thought that was instilled in me: “A poor man like you cannot have his own home. To build a house you need to have good job and pay off the loan on the house for 30 years!”
But I didn’t have a “good” job and decided to build a house myself. I worked for 3 months, 4 hours a day, and built a house. A friend of mine also built a house in 3 months, but with the hands of builders. However, he now has to pay off the mortgage for 30 years. And I am free for the next 29 years!
And I thought. I was deceived again. Building a house is easy. You too can build your own house. Even 13 and 14 year old children recently built a library in their village with their own hands. I started building a house a year. And now I have one problem, to decide in which house I will spend the night today)))).
One of John Janday's houses How to dress fashionably and stylishly?
I started thinking about clothes and remembered how hard I worked in Bangkok for a month to buy just one pair of fashionable jeans. But no matter how fashionable and beautiful the clothes are, they cannot change me. I remain the same in it. And then I realized that clothes don’t have to be fashionable. This is again a deception. After all, we can’t keep up with fashion. No matter how hard we try, we will still fall behind.
What to do if you get sick?
Then I wondered what to do if you get sick. And I realized that we are in vain to be afraid of the disease. After all, illness is a hint from our soul that we are lost and going in the wrong direction. If it's a simple cold, then it's just the soul whispering to us that something is wrong. And if there is a serious illness, then it already screams that we are in danger. I stopped being afraid of illness. And I learned to use the knowledge of previous generations to heal.
Summary: the secret of happiness
Life is really simple and we needlessly complicate it. This It's not true that you have to work hard to acquire a lot of material assets.
Firstly, material values will not ensure complete happiness and joy. Secondly, in exchange for material values, you you give your life to your employer. And you simply don’t have time for happiness.
When, in a simple life, do you there is a lot of time, you can be alone with yourself. At this time you can understand yourself. I if you If you understand yourself, you begin to understand others. And this makes it easy for you to find a common language with everyone. You get joy from communicating with people.
When you have a lot of free time, you notice the beauty of nature around you and begin to transfer it to surrounding objects in the form of carvings on the handle of a knife or beautiful baskets. But people with complicated lives don’t have time for this and they use plastic things((((.
When you start living a simple life and thinking like me, you You stop feeling fear and worry about money, home, clothes and health. You gain balance of soul. You gain confidence that you can do anything.
We've been around for a long time taught separation from their neighbors for the sake of their independence. Let's now learn to live together and don't rely on money, but rely on each other's help.
To become happy, you need to reconnect with yourself, and then with other people. Life is really simple and it’s easy to be happy and carefree in such a life.
It is not true that achieving success and happiness is difficult and difficult. We have been told this since childhood. Nowadays people get everything with great difficulty. Is this civilization? This doesn't look like civilization. So many universities, so many educated people. And life is becoming more and more difficult.
Why are they making our lives so difficult? For whom do people work so hard now? This is wrong and unnatural. Just we need to return to natural life. After all, it is actually light, simple and joyful!
John Janday's full TED talk in Russian (15 minutes):
This performance made an indelible impression on me. I think many people have received an answer not only to the question “How to live happily and enjoy life?”, but also to the questions “How to live further if there is no money”, “How to live economically (tricks)?” and even to the question “How to live on if no one needs you?” John Janday says that when you live a simple life, there is time to be alone with yourself and begin to understand yourself. And when you understand yourself, you begin to understand others better.
Friends, I wish everyone joy and optimism, I wish us all to learn to rejoice even simple things- bread and rain!
Who doesn't want achieve success in life? Probably only a “happy person”. But how to do this, how to live and what to do to achieve success? After all, wanting alone is not enough...you also need a willingness to work hard...to become active and responsible for your life and destiny, and not expect a miracle...you need live right…
Benjamin Franklin— who you see on the $100 bill (if you have one) — was one of the founding fathers of the United States, and an internationally recognized scientist and public figure. It is he who owns the phrase “Time is Money”... and many other wise sayings that lead people to success...
Today, dear visitors to the site of psychological assistance, "website", You will learn how to live correctly to achieve success in life according to Benjamin Franklin.
So, how to live correctly to achieve success in life
If you read the article to the end, and don’t just skim through the headlines, it means you really want to not only find out, how to live correctly to achieve success in life, but you will also live correctly and achieve success...First What you need to value and be able to use (structure) correctly is time. Our life is not as long as it might seem, so we definitely need to learn how to manage our time
Do you love life? Then don't waste time; for time is the fabric of which life is made.
Benjamin Franklin
Second what is needed to live right- is to live according to the rules, i.e. be disciplined in various aspects of life - then you can achieve success in life:
- Control yourself: be abstinent from food, drink... other desires and needs;
- Silence is golden: speak only to the point and only about what can be useful to you and others;
- Order in everything: every thing has its place, every task has its time;
- You need to be decisive: Decide for yourself what needs to be done, and if you decide, be sure to do it;
- Be thrifty: spend only on what will be useful to you or someone else; always spend less than you earn; remember - money has the ability to multiply (money always comes to money);
- Be hardworking: don’t waste your time with empty and unnecessary things... remember - your tomorrow is what you do today;
- Be honest and sincere: do not deceive others to their detriment (note: do not play psychological games)
- Be moderate: do not resort to extremes, do not accumulate negative things in yourself: evil and resentment;
- Be fair to yourself and others: do not do evil and you will not receive it - do good to yourself and others;
- Always be clean: do not keep dirt in your house, on your clothes, or in your soul;
- Be calm, stress-resistant, tolerant - don’t get upset over trifles and trifles;
- Be chaste: do not turn sexual need into animal lust;
- Be meek: learn to forgive and not take revenge...
What is needed here is automation, an internal program... a new life scenario...
To consolidate automatism, you need, as Benjamin Franklin himself did, to devote one week to each rule separately - this is how a new program the right life and you will be able to achieve success in any endeavor. But for now, you need to succeed in consolidating the skill of a new life.
Otherwise, all your reading of the aphorisms and sayings of Franklin...and any sages...will turn into a useless pastime, and the “books of wisdom” themselves will become “readings for losers”...
There are three things that are extremely difficult to do: break steel, crush diamond and know yourself.
Benjamin Franklin
Plan your every day and follow the plan...go to bed early and get up early...
